Nail on the Head

I found this on the website of a fellow WW VeggieBoarder. She found it on a WW message board awhile ago. While not everything here rings true for me, a lot of it does. And it certainly adds a perspective/ looks at the issues from a different angle. And that is a good thing.

If losing weight is really important, why wouldn’t I put every effort into achieving it? Why wouldn’t I base every decision on achieving this goal? Why would I justify decisions that don’t support my goal?

How do I justify decisions that don’t support the goal?
I can make up for this bad decision later
I want it
If I don’t have this now, I will just want it until I get it
I need to feel happy
I need freedom
I will feel bad if I don’t get it
I need to take care of myself, nurture myself
I will do better tomorrow
I don’t have to be perfect
I can allow myself this
I’m hungry
I’m tired

Then I don’t lose weight... and I feel bad about myself. What is my payoff?
I can keep feeling sorry for myself
I don’t have to expect a lot of myself
I can continue to hide
I can coast, not make changes, not improve
I can keep thinking about the same things
I can try to come up with a way to lose weight that I haven’t tried yet
I only have a few clothes to wear

It’s easy to know what I should do but it’s another thing to actually do it.
I know that I should eat healthy foods that are high fiber, low fat, low calorie
I know that I shouldn’t snack too much
I know that I should exercise every day

What do I need?
I need to nurture myself.
I need to separate what I can control from what I can’t.
I need to realize what problems will always be there and not spend a lot of time on them.

How will I nurture myself?
Positive powerful thoughts.
Chart a path and follow it.
Find out what I really want.

There are a few others that I would add to this list.

I eat because I feel I deserve it.
I eat because I'm tired/sad/depressed/lonely/angry/happy/stressed.
I eat to punish myself.
I eat to get back at others when they have hurt me.

My payoff for not loosing weigh:
I don't have to worry about attention from boys.
I don't have to feel bad about being successful.
It's what I do (try to loose weight and fail).
Being fat is part of who I am.

I need to be an active participant in my life, not a passive observer.
I need to feel my feelings and emotions and not be afraid of them.
I need to be present in the moment, no matter what I am doing.
I need to accept myself for who/what/where I am.
I need to remember that this is the only life I get; there are no do-overs. I need to make the most of it.